I just thought I'd post all the wisdom I've acquired on keeping your sanity with many children when housekeeping really isn't your strong suit.
1) Instead of trying to keep your whole house looking like House Beautiful, which is impossible and a perfectionistic standard that will only depress you if you suffer the delusion that that is how you should be living, try to keep one room presentable for any unexpected visitor. Usually this is the living room. Also, try to focus on keeping the approach to your front door neat. Your backyard can look like the Clampitts live there, but you'll feel better about yourself if the approach to your front door and your living room are presentable to the average Joe. If you live in a small space and the living room is also the play room (that is, your kids actually live in it):
2) Have a basket or a toy box in there or some large container where you can quickly throw toys and such for a super quick tidy up.
3) Don't have a lot of knick knacks or stuff you have to be careful of in the living room. Simple is best. It can still be a pretty room if you paint the walls your favorite color, hang a couple of pictures that are meaningful to you or lots of family photos, have a book shelf or case full of books and then keep everything else to a minimum.
4) Carpeting is awful. If you can, get rid of it! It needs constant vacuuming, it is a pain to wash, pets have accidents on it, kids throw up and spill stuff and get bloody noses and have potty accidents. If you can have wood or tile or linoleum, go for it. So much easier to keep clean.
5) Mats, however, are great. Mats by the doors to keep dogs and kids from tracking in mud, mats by the stove and the sink to making standing easier on your legs and to catch spills, etc. You can shake these out, air them outside, some you can throw in the wash. Easy to keep clean.
6) Have one big basket to keep kids' shoes in so they won't be scattered all over the house. You won't trip as much and you won't spend so much time looking for shoes. Also, have a set place for kids to hang coats. Hooks on the back of a door work well.
7) Make your bed every day. For me this is just pulling up the comforter and fluffing the pillow up. Takes 2 seconds. That way even if the rest of the house looks like a tornado went through it, you can collapse on your bed in the one place where chaos doesn't reign.
8) Every time you walk through a room, straighten or tidy something. This was my mother's adage and it really helps keep chaos at bay. Toss that balled up tissue no one threw a way, straighten that stack of books or CDs careening crazily, Put pillows on the floor back on the couch, toss the back packs up on the corner chair instead of on the floor.
9) Every time you use the bathroom, take 10 seconds to neaten or wipe something down. Keep a rag handy in there for just this purpose. If you get in this habit, you can do this mindlessly and every little bit really does help! I've gotten so when I go into a public bathroom I do this too and it is kind of a random act of kindness for the people who are coming after you to use the facilities.
10) Cut down on the number of toys your kids have. The more toys the less creative and grateful kids are. And the more mess and broken stuff you have to deal with.
11) Have one easy place to keep all your arts and crafts. Don't get too crazy about making it look nice. One drawer to dump crayons and such, one shelf for paper, etc. It doesn't have to look pinterest perfect, it just has to be serviceable and easy to get and put stuff away. Likewise with legos. Have a designated lego room with a container to dump them all in.
12) Have regular 10 minutes tidy up times a couple times a day tied to something you do every day. Like right before lunch, put on a timer and race around tidying up with the kids. Or right before story time at night, do the same thing.
13) Have a junk room where you know you can toss stuff and close the door. We are in maintenance mode! Then at some point during the year, make sure you dedicate time to sort, give away and tidy it up. This is a great special job to give older kids to do for money! Do this also with the garage, if you have one. One time a year deep clean works for maintenance mode!
14) When you get ready to get out of the car, make sure everybody is taking out their trash or whatever they just brought in to the car: toys, books, etc. No one gets out of the car without something. Make it the rule!
15) To keep clean laundry from piling up, I dump the laundry I can't put away immediately, on my nicely made bed. That way I have to put it away before I sleep. Now sometimes I'll admit, I'm too tired and I wind up putting it back in a basket or even dumping on the floor! But 95% of the time, I put it away.
16) Once a year go through your closets and get rid of stuff. My church has a once a year clothing drive on Thanksgiving weekend. For years now, the week before Thanksgiving has been dedicated to this in my household.
17) In the morning when I get the kids up, I walk through all the bedrooms and collect any cups or dishes that have migrated to their rooms. Sometimes they remember to bring them down themselves, but sometimes not so much.
18) I am terrible at sorting mail. This is always a problem. The ideal is to sort mail right over your recycling and dump any you don't want in the mixed paper bin, what you do need to keep put in the same place you know you/your spouse will see it again and deal with it.
19) Stop getting newspapers, magazines etc unless you absolutely have to subscribe to something. This stuff wastes paper and just contributes to clutter.
20) For laundry - have a hamper in each bedroom and then an auxiliary one in your laundry room. Just do loads by bedroom. Have kids keep their towels on hooks in the bedrooms too. That way you can dedicate the laundry that day to the clothes, the sheets and towels of all residents of that room. Next day do the next bedroom. I never could handle doing all the laundry in one day, but I could handle doing it this way. Also, as soon as the kids are old enough, have them do their own laundry!!!! The auxiliary hamper is for dish towels and other stuff that doesn't make it into a bedroom hamper.
21) Each child had their own cup that gets rinsed and stored on the counter after meals. They can use this cup to get themselves water when they are thirsty. At the end of the day, load up the dishwasher so they are ready for the next day.
22) Even if you are a big family you can run your dishwasher just once a day, usually. Have extra smaller dessert or sandwich plates. Have extra bowls too for cereal and lunch. If you cut down on the number of glasses and cups, you'll have room to stack small plates and bowls on the top rack as well as the bottom rack. Then the big dinner plates go on the bottom rack. I'm always too tired to finish dishes at night and my kids may or may not help. A lot of times we are doing something in the evening and dishes get short shrift or I'm just too tired to police things. So I fill the sink with soapy water and put pots and pans in to soak (I try to clean up as a I go along when I am cooking dinner), as well as any serving dishes and any sundry leftover plates, etc and deal with it in the morning. I'm more of a morning person so I've got the energy to tackle it then. Plus they've soaked over night.
23) Don't forget to run the dishwasher before you go to bed!
24) Spot cleaning works well for longer than you think! Just wipe up that spot on the floor if you don't have time to clean the whole thing. A quick sweep, or swipe or mop targeting dirty or high volume areas goes a long, long way towards making the house look nice.
25) Pick a cluttered surface, put on a timer for 3 to 5 to 10 minutes (whatever you've got to spare) and just work at top speed. Flylady calls these hot spots. Her system didn't work so well for me, but this particular thing did. If on most days you tackle a hot spot for a few minutes, you can keep afloat! It's like treading water. It keeps your head up!
26) Remember to get your recycling and trash to the curb every week. You'd think this was simple but a lot of times life, weather, the flu, etc can interfere with this and then you've got stuff overflowing, which is always depressing.
27) If you really want your kids to clean their rooms, you have to pitch in and help them. Make it a special event for you to work together. (I do not focus on this much except for a few times a year. As long as the laundry's being done and I get any food related stuff out of there, I don't care how bad it might get). Even if it is just having tea together afterwards or splurging in ice cream to reward yourself for a job well done, it can actually build the relationship instead of you fuming that they aren't doing it right or are being lazy or something.
28) Chores you can pay your kids to help with: weeding, breaking down lots of boxes for recycling, sweeping the porches and walkways, helping with the junk room and the garage, deep cleaning the house in preparation for Christmas, special organizational things like sorting and organizing the family bookshelves, etc.
29) I never had a regular chore chart. I just don't work that way, but the kids did have regular chores: setting the table for dinner, taking out trash, changing the kitty litter, doing their own laundry, helping to carry in groceries.
30) Invite people over for parties and get togethers! This will spur you to keep up on cleaning!