Not all learning is academic. There's lots of learning that needs to go on in the heart and lots of learning that needs to go on in practical life skills, from learning manners to how to change a light bulb.
I have a feeling my family is about to get a big life lesson. This week has been full of my Aunt Jackie. For weeks now I've been visiting her at her various places of residence (a couple of different hospitals and a nursing home). We've been sort of getting ready to take her into our home. We didn't know when so we have been sort of stopping and starting our preparations. I've been trying to prepare myself mentally for it.
Last Friday when I went into visit Jackie at the nursing home, I found out that she was hemorrhaging blood. The nurse came in and announced she'd called an ambulance. So I went with Jackie back to the hospital. She's still there because they can't really figure out why's she's bleeding. Probably a combination of blood thinners for her blood clot and a UTI. Anyway, we've decided we've had enough of the nursing home. The nursing home tries hard but can't escape the fact that it is indeed a nursing home. Frankly, Jackie was better off physically a couple weeks after her amputation than she is now. Just one thing after another has gone wrong and some of it directly relates to being in the nursing home.
So whenever she's discharged from the hospital (and we don't know when that will be) she's going to come here. Saturday was spent talking to a contractor about making our powder room handicap accessible, getting a ramp for our front porch and talking with in home care givers about costs and what to expect. Today and tomorrow I'm going to give the main floor of the house a thorough tidying. This coming Friday the contractor will begin on our bathroom. Jackie may be here by then. She'll just have to deal with a little noise and dust for a couple days. We'll figure out how to make things as comfortable as we can.
I'm not sure how to prepare my kids for all this. I think it will be a good thing in many ways. But I think also it will be a stressful and potentially sad thing. What if she gets sick and dies here? She is 87 with multiple health issues. It's a definite possibility. I've been talking to them about how we need to be flexible and that we might do things a little differently once she's here. I've been more conscientious about keeping the house tidy and asking the kids to pick up after themselves. Every time I see someone's shoes scattered on the floor I think of 1) how it would get in the way of a wheelchair and 2) how my aunt is so tidy and has never been around children much.
When I told Jackie she did not have to go back to the nursing home she perked up immediately. That place was killing her. I was telling her about how we homeschool and mentioned that we'd just started watching The Teaching Co lecture series on Dante and her eyes lit up. She'd love to watch it with us. That's one thing I love about Aunt Jackie. She loves learning. She taught herself French in midlife. After she retired at 65 she learned to play the piano and paint oil paintings. She got very good at the oil painting and has had exhibitions around town. She got herself a whole new life upon retirement. She loves to learn and I do too. She totally understands wanting to study Latin at age 50, for example. So we are kindred spirits in that way.
Anyway, we are about to get a big dose of life learning here. I pray to God to give us joyous, generous hearts. I pray for the wisdom to deal with all the big and little things we'll face as this change comes into our family life.